Bad Days, Blah Weeks, and Believing In Yourself

Sup, guys! I feel like I really shouldn’t keep the formal intros with y’all, since I think we’re past that stage now. Hopefully, all of you have had a good week! My week has been loooong and I am very happy to embrace the weekend. For this week’s post, I wanted to talk about bad days. (And this has nothing to do with the week I’ve had, not at all.)

Bad days. We all have them, right? Everyone’s initial reaction is to say yes, but it’s not actually what everyone believes. Most people tend to be way too hard on themselves and don’t accept that everyone goes through the same thing. And there’s always those stupid motivational posters that say, “Without the bad days, we could never appreciate the good days.” Whether or not that’s true, no one wants to experience bad days, because, quite obviously, they suck.

And the most annoying part of bad days is that they always come out of nowhere. Sometimes, if one thing goes wrong, the whole day feels ruined. At other times, several things seem to end in disaster and make a whole day feel terrible. So, is there a way to ‘cure’ crummy days?

Truth is, there really isn’t. You have to just live through it, and as depressing as it sounds, you need to remember that these sort of vulnerabilities we all have truly connect us, and that’s why it’s so important to support one another through the crazy journey of life. And to be able to do that, we need to see past ourselves and our own insecurities and notice others around us that need the same help we do. That way, we can help each other and make the bad days just a bit brighter.

With bad days, the best way to deal with them and get through them is to pretend like you’re dealing with another person. We are all much harder on ourselves than we are on other people, and once we stop expecting such high standards from ourselves, we can prevent having bad days frequently. As if you were trying to comfort a good friend of yours, tell yourself things to reassure yourself and make you feel more confident in your abilities. Pep talks go a long way and do have the power to change one’s mood if done effectively enough.

And remember, talking to people you trust is also super beneficial. I know I mention talking openly about your problems with others a lot, but that’s only because I find it very important to leading life in a way that makes you the happiest you can be. Ranting or stating your problems aloud can additionally help you find the root of all your problems which you can then work towards fixing. Doing all of these doesn’t make all your bad days disappear, but they do help tremendously.

That’s all for this week, guys! Hope this post helped in some way and hope y’all have a great weekend!

This is Wannabe Philosopher, signing off. Til next week, folks. *finger guns*

Motivation, Management, and Mundane Tasks

Hello once again, my fabulous Fake Phillies! Hope your week’s been good and that you guys have started off your new year the way you wanted! I’m still in shock over how fast the past year went by and I am not at all okay with how quickly things have been going, but I am super excited for the new year!

Moving on, I wanted to talk about motivation. Throughout your life, there will always be moments or periods of time where you don’t feel motivated enough to do anything and don’t take any initiative to get anything done as a result. This leads to a whole lot of avoidance and procrastination, which in turn, lead to quite a bit of stress. Of course, becoming inspired to get things done doesn’t automatically free you from facing the burden of stress, but it does help in a very significant way.

Feeling driven to accomplish a task makes you feel like you’ve really achieved something, and that happiness you experience will cause to want to feel it again. It then results in a positive feedback loop in which you will await challenges and obstacles just so you can accomplish them and emerge triumphant. In other words, having an encouraging mindset set for yourself pushes you to work harder so you can be successful.

But how would one go about feeling motivated in the place? How can you force yourself to want to do something wholeheartedly when you just simply aren’t in the mood? What mainly it comes down is setting goals for yourself. But not the typical goals you set in which you want to get something done in a certain amount of time, or the type of goal where you expect a certain outcome or result. Feeling inspired requires a very specific type of goal-setting; awarding yourself. Telling yourself that you are allowed to have one piece of candy after finishing a task helps to motivate you as you want to get whatever you have to do out of the way as soon and as effectively as possible.

And these sort of goals can be adapted in any way you want to best suit your preferences. If you don’t like or don’t want to eat candy, choose an alternative award, such as allowing yourself to go on your phone for ten minutes. And these goals don’t necessarily have to be immediate, either. You can make them weekly or monthly, depending on what you want to accomplish. For example, if your goal is to get all As and Bs in your classes, you can motivate yourself by telling yourself you can get ice cream at the end of the month if you manage to keep all your grades up during the month. No matter what method you use, though, most of the time, setting these kind of goals will give you optimal results and help you get stuff done.

So, that’s all for this week! I hope this post helped you somehow and that you guys have a great weekend! (Hopefully, I’ll actually use my own advice and get some work done this weekend, but probably not.)

Until next time, Fake Phillies. This is Wannabe Philosopher, signing off. *finger guns*

Family, Festivities, and Frustrations

Sup, my magical Fake Phillies! (Have I used magical before? Oh, well.) Hope your guys’s week has been good! The holidays are here, so I’m in a very festive mood this week and I might actually get through it in one piece! Anyway, for this week, I want to talk about family, as I know a lot of people tend to spend the holidays with their families.

Family is a word that has very different definitions for different people. For some, it is those who are related to them by blood. For others, those they care about the most, regardless of being blood-related or not, are their family. No matter what one’s definition of family is, however, we can all agree that they are one of the things we cherish the most.

And, as the holidays approach and we begin to meet up with all our relatives, it can sometimes be a very trying task to deal with all of them. Spending so much time with the same people, especially when you’re related, is no easy task. So here’s two tips for certain situations you face during the holidays, and hopefully this will help you pull through!

  1. When you get left in charge to watch your younger siblings/cousins: This is always something that happens at big family gatherings, and it always manages to take you by surprise. But no worries! Despite what type of child you are dealing with, whether it be the loud child, the shy child, or one that cries constantly, all you have to do is figure out how you can involve them in something so that they leave you alone. For example, getting them all riled up about playing a certain game or doing a certain activity peaks their interest, and if you treat it like a very special thing, most likely, the kids will be totally enraptured with what you’re saying and will want to participate, regardless of their personality.
  2. When you have to deal with that one relative that keep insulting you but you have to be polite about it: Usually, relatives that tend to do this are super passive-aggressive, and comment on everything, whether it be your hair, your weight, your job, your relationship status, etc. And what can you do? It’s not like you can say anything rude, as these people tend to be your elders, and you’re obligated to respect them. What I find most useful in these situations is to honestly reply with your own passive-aggressive comments. (But make sure they’re a bit more passive than aggressive, otherwise you will be in quite a bit of trouble.) For example, if they tell you that you gained some weight, you reply, “Oh yeah. I’ve been so busy studying to get into a good college, you know, like how you were telling me to do ALL of last year’s family dinner? I just haven’t gotten anytime to go to the gym.” And there you go.

So, that’s all for this week! I will probably include some more tips in the next blog post I’ll post, even though it’ll be in January, since this was getting a bit long. I hope this post helped you somehow and that you guys have a great weekend! See you guys next year! 😉

Until next time, Fake Phillies. This is Wannabe Philosopher, signing off. *finger guns*

Confidence, Credibility, and Roller Coasters

Hi, guys! Hope you’re all having a great week! My week has been insane; it’s been a complete roller coaster, but I made it! Also, happy Hanukkah to those who celebrate it! (I know that is started a few days ago, but since I post on Fridays, I couldn’t wish you guys.)

Anyway, for today’s post, I wanted to talk about confidence. This week, I had a lot of stuff going on, and I required a lot of faith in myself to get through it all. Generally speaking, I am not the most confident person. I tend to doubt myself a bit more the average person does, but when I believe I am entirely right about something, I don’t hesitate to say so. But there are people out there who struggle to be assertive enough to get their point across, so I wanted to try and help those individuals out.

Being assertive is mostly tied in with your confidence level. If you are confident and feel confident, others tend to automatically listen to you and really consider your opinions. And having confidence is not something you necessarily need to feel from within constantly. In fact, I find faking confidence to be super helpful as well as fun in many situations. It’s as if you are putting on an act for the world; playing an acting role. Acting confident can trick your mind into thinking you actually are confident, and at worst case, it will convince others.

How you present yourself also affects your ability to display confidence. Standing straight makes you look more authoritative and powerful. Keeping your chin up and maintaining eye contact with others shows you are not afraid of voicing your opinion and do not fear your audience, giving what you are saying a lot of credibility. Using an adequate amount of hand gestures helps elaborate upon your points and makes you appear to be knowledgeable about the topic you speaking of. (But don’t over-gesticulate, because that makes you look kind of crazy. I would know. I over-gesticulate a lot.)

It is always important to remember never to let confidence go to your head. After all, there is a reason why the phrase, ‘pride comes before a fall’, is so well-known and so often used. Overconfidence tends to lead to too much reliance in one’s ability to do well without preparing. Just because things worked out for you once in a certain way does not guarantee that things will work out that way again. Working hard and effectively preparing for whatever it is you are about to do is key to your success, and confidence merely catalyzes the rate at which you reach your goal. Doing all of these things allows one to overcome challenges and obstacles, because, as with most things in life, a balance is always needed.

So, that’s all for this week! I hope this post helped you somehow and that you guys have a great weekend!

Until next time, Fake Phillies. This is Wannabe Philosopher, signing off. *finger guns*

Uncertainty, Unhappiness, and the Unevitable

Hello again, my charming Fake Phillies! Happy Friday! I’m so happy the weekend is here again. (In all honesty, knowing it’s just up ahead has become the thing that gets me through the week at this point.) Anyway, hope your week has been good! Mine has been very stressful, but overall, okay. And if life hasn’t been going too well for you, don’t worry. Things will get better soon. Right….?

That brings up the topic I want to discuss for today’s post. I know for a fact that many people read or hear assurances like the one above and don’t believe a word of it.  In a world that is constantly changing at rapid rate, how can we ever know that things will get better? The answer? We don’t.

This post isn’t supposed to be scaring anyone, but is supposed to serve as something many can relate to. Thoughts like this sound paranoid and hopeless, but when you think about, it’s true. And whenever people talk about these issues, they are usually dismissed as silly. But it’s important to address these things as they often plague the mind with self-doubt and fear of what’s to come. This post is meant to reassure people and to let them know this a completely normal thought process.

Dealing with these thoughts effectively includes learning to understand what aspects of your life you can and cannot control. Strive to improve in areas you have power over, and put a little faith in the world when it comes to matters you cannot control.

The truth is, our future is always so uncertain. We never have any idea of what is going to happen. We don’t even know if we’ll live to see the next day. Subconsciously, we already let the universe determine these outcomes without worrying ourselves. So, we should view other situations in which we are powerless in the same light.

And I’m not going to lie to anyone. Sometimes, life just sucks. And there’s nothing you can do but hope it gets better. And even then, a lot of the time, it just gets worse. Just as Murphy’s Law says, all that can wrong will wrong. But the uncertainty of our future is what drives us to keep going through this journey called life. The fact that we don’t know what our futures have in store for us allows us to hope for a better tomorrow and work to achieve it. It also gives some a sense of a greater purpose they are meant to fulfill. No matter how you think of the topic, knowing that you aren’t to blame for most of the bad things you experience in life helps you get through those problems. Taking so much responsibility upon’s one self isn’t healthy; let the world do its job, and you do yours.

So, that’s all for this week! I hope this post helped you in some way and that you guys have a great weekend!

Until next time, Fake Phillies. This is Wannabe Philosopher, signing off. *finger guns*

Caution, Calendars, and Concentration

Hello, my beautiful Fake Phillies! Happy December! Hope your week’s been well! Mine has been……..let’s just say I am very happy it’s Friday. That’s all I have to say about that. Anyway, I wanted to continue my WPGSS from last week. (WPGSS stands for Wannabe Philosopher’s Guide to Stressful Situations, for those who don’t know or forgot.) Also, I just want to mention, this is all my personal tips for dealing with stress. There is no professional input behind these methods, so I’m not guaranteeing anything with these tips. Now that my cautionary advisory is out of the way, let’s get to part 2, shall we?

4. Organize

As someone who likes things to be very organized, let me just say, it’s SUPER helpful. All you have to do is be aware of everything going on in your life. Mark down important dates on your calendar so nothing catches you by surprise. Just knowing what’s happening when reduces your stress levels and even allows you to plan ahead. This lowers your chances of getting overwhelmed by too many activities and keeps you on top of things.

5. Hang Out With Friends

Spending time with your friends is always fun and relaxing. Finding friends that share some of the stress you do is even better as you have something that you can overcome together. It makes the task a little less intimidating because you know you’re not alone in your struggle. Plus, it’s really nice to know you always have people around you who’ve got your back, and hanging out with them is a great reminder of that. It puts things into perspective for you and makes everything just a bit better.

6. Concentration Techniques

No matter what it is you do, you need to put in a certain amount of work to expect good results. But working hard sometimes just isn’t good enough. A high level of concentration is also required to make your work count for something. A lot of people like listening to music to help them concentrate. I personally find music distracting and avoiding listening to it while I work, and that goes to show how every individual has to find their own technique to concentrate. When memorizing information, I tend to close my eyes, and that actually helps me remember things better. I also know people who only work in secluded areas because they know they cannot concentrate in noisy areas. It all depends on what you prefer, and it often requires a lot of trial and error before you realize what works best for you. But once you find the concentration technique that works for you, you should be all set to conquer all the challenges up ahead.

And, that’s all for this week! I hope this post was helpful and that you guys have a great weekend!

Until next time, Fake Phillies. This is Wannabe Philosopher, signing off. *finger guns*

 

Stressing, Snacking, and Zero Shaming

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Hello again, my wonderful Fake Phillies! Hope your week’s going well! Mine has been……ahhhhhhhhhhh. I’ll have to say, this was quite a change from my previous weeks. Again, I don’t want to say it was all bad as it wasn’t, but seriously, this week was intense. I was pretty stressed and really annoying to everyone around me because my mood was off all week, but I guess everyone has a bad week once in a while. Of course, there is always a better way to deal with stressful situations, and that’s what I wanted to talk about for today’s post.

Life is going to happen. It might be crazy, it might be horrible, it might be fantastic, but the one thing we can count on is that it’s always going to happen. And we have to be prepared for that. There’s a few things to remember in order to deal with stressful situations. I’m going to call it Wannabe Philosopher’s Guide to Stressful Situations (WPGSS).

  1. Talk To Yourself.

Talking to yourself may feel stupid, but it actually helps a lot. Even if you don’t feel positive enough to give yourself a pep talk, talking out your problems with yourself is quite beneficial. It often puts things into perspective; you may discover that your problems aren’t as bad as you thought or that there aren’t as many as you thought there were. And hey, who’s going to understand you better and give you a better response than yourself?

2. Eat.

And no, I don’t mean to go buy five bags of chips and drown out your sorrows in all the fat you’re consuming. (Not that I’m shaming anyone. We’ve all been there.) For me personally, I like to eat when I’m stressed regardless of whether I’m hungry or not. And most of the time, I end up consuming a lot of unhealthy stuff. However, the actual concept of eating gives you something to focus on and takes your mind off of whatever you are stressed about. So, the best option would be to keep healthy snacks easily within reach. When I’m upset, I usually grab the first thing I find to snack on, so if you keep something like carrots at the front of your fridge, you can stress-eat while benefiting your body. After all, being generally healthy also makes you feel better, so it’s as if you’re killing two birds with one stone.

3. Take Breaks.

Taking small breaks between tasks is really helpful for me. Of course, don’t go and take hour-long breaks (like I tend to do) because that will just end up being a setback for you. Instead, set goals for yourself. For example, telling yourself that you can take a twenty minute break as soon as you finish your project outline motivates you to get the work done more efficiently and effectively. Then, after your break, you can tell yourself you can take another twenty minute break after finishing all your research for the project. This makes the entire task seem less daunting and relieves some stress as a result.

And let’s just call this part one of WPGSS, so you can look forward to part two of this next week! Hope you guys all have a great weekend!

Until next time, Fake Phillies. This is Wannabe Philosopher, signing off. *finger guns*

 

Rules, Recreation, and Roasting Myself

Hello once again, my lovely Fake Phillies!

Happy Friday! The time has come when we all celebrate the death of the school week and welcome the weekend. Hope you’re all doing well and your week went well overall. Mine has been….wow. I feel like my use of ellipses to describe every week of mine is quite appropriate and encompasses my feelings about it perfectly. I mean, it wasn’t all good, but it wasn’t all bad, either. It was just….something. But that’s okay. I believe that if you laugh at least once a day, then that day is never a waste. And I did laugh about a lot of things this week, though they were all very stupid things. (My sense of humor centers around memes, innuendos, and stupidity, and I have no explanation as to why. On an unrelated note, I read somewhere humor is often reflective of our personalities.)

Anyways, this week I wanted to talk about activities. Not just any activities, but activities you love to do. Everyone has their own personal tastes when it comes to doing recreational activities, but many people give up certain hobbies out of fear of judgement. I believe if it helps you feel better or makes you happy, then you should do it regardless of what anyone says. People feel pressured to do things because their friends or other people they know do it. And there’s nothing wrong with taking a friend’s recommendation to try something new, but it also should never feel like an obligation. Most people have a lot going on in their lives, and everyone deserves a break once in a while. If those breaks aren’t spent doing something you thoroughly enjoy, then it only hurts you. The person that causes you to give up your hobby won’t be affected in the slightest, but you will be wasting time not doing something you love.

Besides recreational activities, this extends to all things in life. If you really want something, then there’s no one in the world that can stop you from achieving that goal but yourself. It’s important to focus on yourself and make yourself a priority in your life, because although life is about living for others, you need to able to situate yourself before being able to help others.

Of course, as in most cases, there are always exceptions. One cannot go around doing simply whatever they please because they wish to do so. There is a certain rule that needs to be followed and was phrased best by someone I really look up to. They said, “Do whatever you want that makes you happy as long as you don’t hurt or affect anyone else in the process.” By following this rule, not only do you feel good, but you make sure it is never at the cost of someone else’s happiness.

That’s all the wisdom I have to share this week, guys! Wishing you all a great weekend!

Until next time, Fake Phillies. This is Wannabe Philosopher, signing off. *finger guns*

Privileges, Problems, and Pendulums

Hello again, my little Fake Phillies!

That time of week has come once again where I bestow my vast expanse of knowledge upon you. (At least, that would be the case if I had a vast expanse of knowledge, but alas….)
This week has been….interesting. There were some developments and some setbacks, but I’ll manage. That brings up the topic I wanted to talk about this week. I bet you’ve heard many people say, “Well, there’s so many people out there who have it worse than you, so you really shouldn’t be complaining.” That statement is partially true; there are people out there who have it worse than you. There always are, and always will be. Another statement that is often said is, “All your problems are valid, no matter what your circumstances are.” This statement is also partially true; your problems are valid. But how can both those things be correct, though they send completely different messages?

Well, it comes down to finding a balance. Life is entirely centered around finding equilibrium. Where there is day, there is night, where there is land, there is sea, and where there is good, there is bad. What I’m trying to say here is that the world is full of opposites, so the in-between is usually the optimal position to be in a situation. And this applies to almost every case. You can also think of it as a pendulum swinging back and forth. You never want to be on one particular side, swung all the way to the left or right. You want to stay contently in the middle, at a balanced position. The statements above may send across different messages, but finding the middle ground between them is important to understanding how you should view and deal with the subject.

Everyone has problems, no matter how small or big they may be. And human nature compels us to complain about those problems, and there’s nothing wrong with that as long as we address the problem correctly. Letting small problems define you and stop you from furthering yourself is not okay. In that case, your complaining is invalid. But if you have a plan to resolve your issue and go through with it, even if it doesn’t work out, complaining a little about it is perfectly okay and bound to happen. Being aware of other people’s situations is necessary and should be taken note of, but it shouldn’t stop you from having an off day once in a while and feeling overwhelmed or stressed. Recognize your privilege, but understand it doesn’t make you immune to misfortune or bad days. After all, you are human, and no matter what your circumstances, you will face hardships. You are not perfect, so you are allowed to feel bad about your issues. What it comes down to is your overall attitude towards the problem and finding a solution to it.

That’s all for this week! I hope you guys liked this week’s post and hope you have a great weekend!

Until next time, Fake Phillies. This is Wannabe Philosopher, signing off. *Finger guns*

 

Beginnings, Bad Jokes, and a Bit of Philosophy

Hey, guys! I’m starting a blog, (as you can clearly see.) This blog of mine is meant to be a reflection of my past week and hopefully an opportunity for me to help others on their journey through life! Let it be known that I am actually a realistic/pessimistic person and not a positive ray of sunshine here to bless your soul. (Sorry.) The reason I have mentioned that is because constantly positive people, though nice to be around, can be difficult to relate to when talking about a topic such as life lessons. In my own experience, I have appreciated others who have had a similar viewpoint on life as me, so I hope I can reach out to some of you out there.

First of all, I wanted to call those of you reading my blog something special. You can be my Fake Phillies. (Since I’m the Wannabe Philosopher? Ha, ha, get it? Probably not. It was a horrible joke, but I don’t care. I’ll do what I want, it’s my blog.)

Terrible nicknames aside, let’s get reflecting! This past week of mine has not been too extraordinary in any aspect. It had its ups and downs like any other week, but I have realized that that doesn’t make it any less valuable. Based off my experience, I want to center this week’s life lesson around comparison.

Life constantly insists upon comparison between you and others. Whether it be through how well you performed on a task, how many activities you are involved in, or even how put together your life is, comparison worms its way into your life. And it’s not altogether a bad thing. In fact, sometimes, it’s absolutely necessary.  You never know where you are at a point in your life if you don’t have anything to base it off of. And identifying where you stand is vital towards improving your situation and growing as a person. You need others to be better than you to be able to motivate you as well, but it’s important to remember that everything is temporary. One day, you might be the worst, and the next day, you many be the best. In most cases, however, you will always find someone better and worse than you, and there’s nothing you can do to change that. You can merely focus on working to improve yourself and striving to reach your potential. And one of the most important things to remember is to never be too hard on yourself. Don’t be too slack, either, and excuse yourself for every mistake you make, as that will get you nowhere. Learn to address situations correctly by taking certain steps to make it better while still giving yourself the credit you deserve. We are all too different to be able to say who is actually a better person than the other, and you know what? Even if we could figure that out, it wouldn’t matter. You should never stop yourself from achieving whatever you possibly can on the account of anyone else, whether they be better or worse than you. Life is too short to focus on what everyone else is doing. It’s up to you to eventually find your place in life, work hard to obtain it, and learn to be content with where you are.

I hope this post was beneficial to you in some way and might have put some things into perspective for you. Come check out this blog next week for my next post!

Until next time, Fake Phillies. This is Wannabe Philosopher, signing off.