A hand drawn illustration I made, just for you
Hey there my Honey Nut Cheerios®, I’m that weird bee mascot on the cereal box and I’m here to feed you with knowledge that’s the nutrient equivalent to that tasty, crunchy, treat, Honey Nut Cheerios®. And just like the fantastic Honey Nut Cheerios® memorable slogan says, “Advice on love? It’s GRRReat!” We’re going to be breaking down your questions about romance.
“I’ve been at a new school for a couple months now and there is this guy I like. He is funny and kind to me but I have been told I shouldn’t like him…what do I do? Should I ask him about why people have said that stuff to me? I think it is too early to tell him I like him but I don’t know for sure….please help!”
Confessing to someone can make or break your experience with that person for a looong time. I’m wiping away a proud parental tear for you miss feelings, for you recognized the same thing and that already has you set on the path of getting to where you want to be. Let’s break it down. Step 1. What are your friends saying about this guy? Since you’re new to this school, I’m sure they were here before you so they’ve been in this guy’s class longer, so don’t forget to recognize the weight of your friend’s opinion. Are they just annoyed by this guy, or are they actual critiques on his character? Most of the time your friends want what’s best for you, so although it may seem contradicting with how he treats you, your friends may be pointing out the red flags you’ve managed to miss. Next, Step 2. Once you’ve evaluated your friends’ advice, look deep inside yourself, reach your arm way down inside of you and think, “Do I see a future with this person?” If you see a future then do some more thinking before you act, but if you think that maybe he’s just a crush, go with it. Your friends may think he’s annoying but hopefully that’s it, and anyways, it’s a crush. They happen all the time, and many are made even when you’re aware of how impossible it is. The worse it could become is a tender memory you look back onto when you’re an adult, feeling nostalgic for puppy love and then suddenly anxious at realizing how time truly will wait for no one.
“How do you survive high school with out a boyfriend?? 😱”
Dear anonymous, there are two ways you can take how you’re feeling right now, but first you have to identify what you really want. Do you want to get a boyfriend, or do you just want tips on not having one, because there are plenty of ways to survive high school without a bf/gf. First off, find joy in being alone, like sure you don’t have a boyfriend but what about a best-friend? Cherish the people around you who you just happen to not be romantically associated with, and if you really want a bf/gf that badly, then you can work for it. People aren’t going to fall head-over-heels unless you go out of your way to leave an impression on them, and sometimes that requires stepping out of your comfort zone. I have dreamed of a world where I can do absolutely nothing and still get people to like me, but sadly that world would never be. So although it’s the devastating truth, if you want a boyfriend/girlfriend, you’ve got to put effort into it.
What are some easy ways to connect with someone so your relationship actually can go somewhere?
Well if you’re trying to become close to them in the first place, talking is the key point in any relationship, whether it’s platonic or not. Talk-talk-talk, it’s the easiest thing you can do to make any relationship closer. The next level is taking in the information you’ve been learning about them through simply talking and see what they’re interests are in. A good friendship/relationship usually has one interest in common and that one thing can keep a duo going for a while. So if they recommend something as small as a video or a podcast, check it out, because not only are you finding more common interests within one another, but you’re also discovering new interests or hobbies that you may have never been able to discover yourself. The last piece of advice I have to drop onto you is to spend time with whoever you want to connect with further. Everything I’ve listed out sounds pretty cliché and overused, but it’s true. If you want to further your relationship with someone, it can’t just be built of one block, it’s the small interactions and the big ones. Whether it’s as small as eye contact, or asking them out, it’s about taking the initiative to further the relationship yourself in multitudes of ways. However, just like the end credits of Mulan®, you need to stay true o your heart, also pretend to be your dad and lead an army during the Northern Wei dynasty.
Oh wow! I wrote a lot more than I had originally thought. This is one intimidating chunky piece of meat writing. If I had to define this piece as a cut of meat it would definitely be the Wedge Bone Sirloin Steak. Thanks for reading so far into this beefy mess, and feel free to submit any questions you need to satisfy with meat advice to: https://goo.gl/forms/Laiu9dxI8FxSZ9JB2
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